back to love

People often say that marriage is about compromise and that much is true, but just yesterday we tackled yet another issue that I'm certain will come up time and time again.

I promised to care for J when he is sick, weary or simply in need and it is the last statement that I am referring to now. We have had 5 years to learn each other, to begin to understand the subtle nuances of each other, and yet it's obvious, marriage has affect one important factor - trust.

Not trust in each other from an honesty perspective, but rather trust in your partner that they will watch out for you and take care of you, always. That it's ok to give into your demons for a few moments if need be, because the love of your life is there to guide you and bring you back.

Back to life & back to love.

Married

Nothing has changed and yet everything is different. We are just two weeks in and I still giggle when I say husband. It seems surreal sometimes - I HAVE A HUSBAND.

I feel like an adult, like a grown up, I feel like I've finally begun to loosen my grip on the life of a youth. Not that I ever acted overly stereotypically.

But I digress, being married is wonderful. Our friends and family embrace us as a whole. They see us as two parts of the same, just as we do and it's incredible. No longer are our commitments secondary to anyone else's. We are the beginning of our own family, and people respect that.

And yet within our little family, our little unit, we have maintained the status quo. We continue to take care of each other, watch over each other and provide for one another when we are in need. Truly, nothing has really changed between us, we just made our commitment official.

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Originally uploaded by granola girl :).

The wedding - simply perfect

Well it's official - I am now a MRS and I couldn't be happier.

The sun was shining, the guests were smiling, and the love of my life was waiting for me, to claim me as his own.  The day went fabulously and I wouldn't change a thing, there were no major crisis', no tears (except a few out of pure joy) and there was an overall glow of love and happiness over the entire day.

A special thank you to everyone who made the day possible and to everyone who was able to make it out to share in our special day.

There is so much to say, but for now...the lyrics of OUR song...

"Better Together" by Jack Johnson

There's no combination of words
I could put on the back of a postcard
No song I could sing
But I can try for your heart
Our dreams, and they are made out of real things
Like a, shoebox of photographs
With sepiatone loving
Love is the answer,
At least for most of the questions in my heart
Like why are we here? and where do we go?
And how come it's so hard?
It's not always easy and
Sometimes life can be deceiving
I'll tell you one thing its always better when we're together

MMM its always better when we're together
Yeah, look at the stars when we're together
Well, it's always better when we're together
Yeah, it's always better when we're together

And all of these moments
Just might find their way into my dreams tonight
But I know that theyll be gone
When the morning light sings
And brings new things
For tomorrow night you see
That theyll be gone too
Too many things I have to do
But if all of these dreams might find their way
Into my day to day scene
I'd be under the impression
I was somewhere in between
With only two
Just me and you
Not so many things we got to do
Or places we got to be
We'll Sit beneath the mango tree now

Its always better when we're together
Mmmm, we're somewhere in between together
Well, it's always better when we're together
Yeah, it's always better when we're together

MMmmmm MMMmmmm Mmmmmm
I believe in memories
They look so, so pretty when I sleep
Hey now, and when I wake up,
You look so pretty sleeping next to me
But there is not enough time,
And there is no song I could sing
And there is no, combination of words I could say
But I will still tell you one thing
We're Better together.

on being flexible and adventerous!

Another good read I found in my email box...gg :)

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.

How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gas up and stammer, "I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It's Monday." She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."
 

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she/he is open to adventure and available for trips. She/he keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her/his enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her/him for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
 

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not just something on your SHOULD DO list.. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.

"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
 

Food for thought

There is a sufficiency in the world for man's need but not for man's
greed. ~Mohandas K. Gandhi

We cannot command Nature except by obeying her. ~Francis Bacon

The activist is not the man who says the river is dirty. The activist
is the man who cleans up the river. ~Ross Perot

When one tugs at a single thing in nature, he finds it attached to the
rest of the world. ~John Muir

The universe is not required to be in perfect harmony with human
ambition. ~Carl Sagan

It appears to be a law that you cannot have a deep sympathy with both
man and nature. ~Henry David Thoreau, Walden, 1854

The human race will be the cancer of the planet. ~Julian Huxley, attributed

The word "wilderness" occurs approximately three hundred times in the
Bible, and all its meanings are derogatory. ~René Dubos, The Wooing
of Earth, 1980

In an underdeveloped country, don't drink the water; in a developed
country, don't breathe the air. ~Changing Times magazine

http://www.quotegarden.com/environment.html

bus stop etiquette

I know that I am far from an expert on etiquette - nor do I generally
feel the need to follow such socially defined rules, and yet this
morning I found myself shaking my head as I boarded the bus.

When at a major bus stop that serves many routes, people generally
congregate near the bus stop and there is inevitably some budging,
pushing and shoving as people make their way onto the bus.

When however, you are at a single bus stop that only services a single
bus into town and people are peacefully lined up in the order they
arrived, it is common courtesy to stand at the end of the line and
happily wait for your turn to board the bus - even if that means you
have to stand.

It annoys me even more, when these said people make their way to the
front of the line with the guise of checking the bus schedule, after
which they just happen to be the front of the line to board the bus.
At this point, they avoid eye contact and continually check their
watch as they wait for the bus that they are about to board in front
of all the other passengers at the stop.

What makes these people think they are so special? I hate to be the
bearer of bad news, but people were already waiting patiently, and
though no one had the energy to tell off the bus stop etiquette
offender at my stop this morning (myself included) I know I wasn't the
only one frustrated by this behaviour. There were definitley some
shared smiles and eye rolls. <b>Wait your turn to board the bus, just
like everyone else!</b>

The engagement: T minus 2 weeks 1 day

Wow, Wow, Wow!! The wedding is sneaking up fast. While not exactly sneaking up, more like barreling forward. Thoughts of the wedding constantly permeate my mind. Fortunately, most everything has been "sorted out" and/or "dealt with" meaning as far as I can tell there is nothing left that still needs to be "planned". There is still much to do, but at least there is a plan. :D

Work has been crazy busy to boot, so I feel like I have accomplished so little over the last few weeks, but I know it's not true. I'm going to spend the day doing errands, just as I did last Friday, and hopefully I will feel a sense of accomplishment when I lay down to sleep this evening.

Tonight is J's pseudo-stag: I call it that because a) he didn't want it and b) he's informed his friends he will be leaving if they try and embarrass him and make him do stupid stuff...Although time will tell.

Tomorrow is my make-up consultation and my second wedding shower, this time with some of my friends present.

Weddings sure take up a lot of energy - but I can't wait to be J's Mrs!